High-Performance Engine Maintenance: A Gifted Woman's Guide to Life’s Oil Leaks.
Gifted women and men often need just a little more proactive self-care, especially when life has dropped them harder than usual. Your “normal” isn’t going to be restored by basic practice.
The Constellation Within: Why Gifted Women Are Not Meant to Choose Just One Thing
Integrating the gifted experience across decades is not the exercise in brevity that many people seem to think is necessary.
Seagulls and Seething Revenge
Inspired by a Facebook memory. Complicated families are all strange in their very own way.
Creating Workplaces Where Gifted Adults Can Actually Thrive
With gratitude to friend and former colleague Pam for asking the other week, here’s a quick reference to what to look for in an organization that actually supports gifted team members. And a short list of what not-to-do.
The Feral Among Us: How Incomplete Socialization Shapes the Gifted Adult
Giftedness usually means you’re keenly aware of your differences from early life, whether it’s named that way or not. Between unmet needs, benign (and not so benign) neglect, and the need to constantly recalibrate oneself socially, we can have some significant gaps that persist into adulthood. They can also become superpowers.
As Summer Ends, We Are Sick of Lemonade, Even As A Mixer
Lemons are (suddenly) everywhere. And uckfay emonadelay.
Being praised for “smart” can be what stunts you the most.
Sneaky little elements hiding in your self worth formula can hold you back. What does “smart” cost you on the day to day, anyway?
"You're so weird."
This one is for all my peers ages 15-85 who were never formally identified as a “gifted kid,” but have an inkling that they belong in this column. We didn’t all get the benefit of a name for this when we were children. Heck, I got the “benefit” of a word for it, some part time gifted programming….but also a whole lot of senseless “othering” and neglect in school.
Gifted Men and the Rare Alchemy of Male Connection
Men perched on a scenic ledge laughing and appreciating the company and adventure.
The Summer I Learned to Stand Guard
When you are gifted in the intellectual sense and also the Alice Miller sense, it can be a little wack to begin to unpack.
Too Many Talents, Not Enough Time: The Gifted Woman’s Dilemma of Multipotentiality
You may contain more lifetimes inside you than you’ll ever know.
Gifted Motherhood: The Beautiful, Exhausting Intensity of Raising a Family When You're Wired Differently
It all begins with an idea.
The Gifted Woman as a Reluctant Leader: When Brilliance Doesn’t Want the Spotlight
Gifted women are often assumed to be natural leaders. Sometimes they are. Often, they get overlooked. Ambivalence tends to be the rule.
When Sensitivity Becomes a Shield: The Gifted Woman's Defensive Achilles Heel
When you burn the bridge at both ends while you’re on it, you do learn to swim—but then you wonder how you keep on doing this to yourself. What the actual F.
Being gifted, and quiet, is like being a lighthouse in the fog.
Present, solid, illuminated, overlooked. Lighthouse in the fog in a harbor illuminated at dusk.
The Grief Gifted People Carry: It’s Not Just About Loss
Gifted grief is multidimensional, complex, abstract, and real.
Gifted Mentors: I Am Because Barbara Was
She and I grew together for ten years, getting each other to our next phases. Now that I am in the phase that she was in back then, I really know what a gift she was.